Treat Yourself To Love!

Most of us spend years falling in and out of love before we even realize that there’s another dimension to love which we didn’t know existed. When we do realize it, we begin a vertical movement into higher levels of love rather than a horizontal reshuffling of conditional human love. As we set out on the vertical path, the horizontal world gets better, too. To ascend into unconditional love, we must rise above, or get beyond the limited, lower-level, ego-based version of love. Unfortunately in today’s world we see a lot of separation, a lot of fear, a lot of conditional love just moving people around in competitive, fearful circles instead of the kind of love that heals separation and restores well-being.
The thing is, the human experience of life isn’t static. It’s always moving, always changing, either integrating, or disintegrating. That is, either harmoniously bringing all parts together, or pushing the parts away from each other. When there’s love there’s always integration. Love is the glue that holds everything together. It is that quality that makes us feel as though we’re one with our universe and with each other.
It’s important to get the concept that at some level we are all connected. You may appear to be a distinct, unique individual, but that uniqueness and distinction exists only at the level of ego and personality. At a higher level we are all part of a grander tapestry, and we are woven together by acceptance, understanding, compassion, sharing, and other aspects of that which we call love.
Since there is oneness or unity that expresses itself as diversity in the world of form, it’s understandable and even necessary that variety exists. We are all participants in this variety and we are all taking part in weaving the tapestry of life. If we think about love in this way, we can see how important it is to respect and honor the diversity in our world, in our friendships, in our families, in our relationships, in our cultures, and in ourselves. We must learn to honor the diversity of gifts from a level of unconditional love.
In other words, it’s imperative that we give to the people around us the freedom to be themselves. At the same time, we get to claim our own right to be our own best self. We must give up the need to control other people and what they do. If we find ourselves trying to control other people, we have forgotten that they, like us, are unique, distinct individualizations of a whole thing.
Many times we attempt to change people to make them likable to us. But the truth is we can’t like everyone, and we can’t like everything that another person does. It’s a sure bet that if we try to impose our expectations on someone else, that person won’t like us very much either.
So you can’t like everybody, and you can’t agree with everybody. But you can regard everyone’s differences from a place of love that lives inside you.
I’ve heard people say, “Oh, there isn’t a person I don’t like.” Or, “I like everybody.” People who say this are either fooling themselves or don’t have the guts to admit that they don’t like some people. It isn’t possible to like everybody. Nor is it possible to agree with everyone all the time. We can’t do that and maintain our own individuality. We are alive to be different. It’s our differences that demonstrate infinite variety in the human world.
Don’t try to reform someone else. Don’t try to understand another person completely. Don’t’ try to dominate anyone else. There may be nothing more difficult than to mind your own business when it comes to watching someone chose unwisely, but unless it’s within your realm of influence to do something for them, or they ask you for help, then it isn’t up to you to be that person’s savior. Remember that the law of cause and effect and the law of attraction are always in operation and will see to it that each person reaps what they have sown.
I like these words written by Kahlil Gibran in his book, The Prophet. “Let there be spaces in your togetherness. Love one another, but make not a bond of love. Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Stand together, yet not near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
Love is supremely simple. It is we humans who have habitually complicated our lives with critical judgment, selfish expectations and control addictions. Giving love and receiving love is natural to us and it is absolutely fundamental to our nature. It requires no training, it is permanently transforming, and it expands as it is given away. It is the greatest secret in the Universe. It is here for all who wish to experience it; it is available in unlimited supply, and all you have to do to receive it is to give it away fearlessly. That’s the way you treat yourself to love. That’s the way you add yourself to the list of happy people.